How the humble brussel sprout taught me a valuable lesson going into 2021!

For those of you repulsed by the brussel sprout, I hate to mention these “little green balls of hell”, at least that’s what my husband thinks they are. I,on the other hand, do like them and this Christmas they taught me a valuable lesson: a lesson about being able to let go and how to approach 2021 open to the possibility of what can emerge when we do.

How I hear you say? Well, like all of us, Covid Christmas 2020 was going to be “different”. In embracing the difference, we decided to have steak for Christmas dinner. I insisted that the brussels would still feature! Now I knew due to childhood trauma of having to eat your greens, Rich absolutely hates them. I also had a fair idea they probably weren’t going to be the most creative enhancement for our alternative Christmas dinner! Still I bought them anyway and yes they ended up being thrown as they rotted away in the veggie drawer.

You see I could not let go of the picture I had of what makes Christmas, even though a brussel sprout free menu was unfolding before my very eyes. Even though it was time to let go of that picture to make way for something new, I struggled. Only when I saw them rotting in the fridge, did I wish I had fully embraced what was happening and let them go with dignity at the time!

So as we all begin a new year creating visions,goals, planning and strategising, can I also encourage you to be able to let go. Remember to allow for life unfolding with unexpected twists and turns: (after all, who would have planned the year we just had):a new idea; an unforeseen opportunity; something off plan. I’m not saying you should not plan, on the contrary. I am all for it. Life will happen, so it is important to plan for what you would like to have happen. However, planning exactly how life should be can get in the way if we do not let go, if we are too rigid to acknowledge what is happening before us. So stay open, allow the sense of the unknown not to be a place of fear but an exciting place, a place of possibility and a place for a different story to emerge. Keep in mind the brussel sprout lesson of the power of letting go, after all there may be greater things waiting fo you. By the way our Christmas dinner was fabulous and washed down with an quality red wine we had a blissful, peaceful, loving, very Christmassy Christmas day.

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The moon and the stars

aimforthemoonFrom time to time, I find myself thinking about starting a blog to share thoughts on the greatest teacher ever, life, and how to use these life lessons to guide us and propel us to even greater things. But then a little voice in my head (I’m sure you all know the one I mean) asks “who would want to listen to you?”. This makes me decide to keep quiet and not bother. I’ve decided to silence that voice so this week I am writing my first blog! Someone might listen and at least I won’t be playing safe and staying silent. Bear with me as I step out of my comfort zone, right now another of those voices has piped up, telling me that whatever I write will be rubbish!

Why now and what prompted me to do it? This week, children in Northern Ireland having been receiving the results of their transfer test ( like the 11+ test) which has a massive impact on the next phase of their lives. I found myself moved on 2 counts. Firstly impressed by a local school who chose to help the kids prepare for 1 of life’s lessons bbc

Sometimes things don’t turn out as you hoped and you get disappointed but you got to stay in the game and know this does not make you a lesser person. Use it to learn and grow. As hard as it may seem, one day this major event will not be as important as you will have grown and blossomed through so many other life lessons – your first heartbreak, getting your first job, moving away from home and the list goes on. So feel disappointed if it doesn’t work out but know that you are not a disappointment, fail at things but know that you are not a failure. You are enough and will continue to be enough as you journey your way through life.

The second lesson is having been disappointed, do you take the “easy” option so that you don’t get disappointed again. There are some kids who are not sure if their score is quite enough for their first choice school, it might be. So they have to decide –  do I go for it or do I put down my second choice to avoid another disappointment? My life lessons have taught me nothing hurts more, in the long run, than not having gone for things in life. Going for it and it not working out, at least you grow and learn so much along the way. So “always shoot for the moon, even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars”. Don’t stay safe just to avoid disappointment or rejection, instead learn how to bounce back,  dress yourself down and get back in the game. Eventually one day you will reach the moon.


So where are you staying safe & aiming low when you really want to aim for the moon? Shoot.